Because this month’s theme is forgiveness, it seems only appropriate to discuss what happens when we don’t forgive. A grudge is having resentment or ill will towards someone who has wronged you. Holding a grudge can create a lot of internal bitterness, anger and resentment towards others and even towards God.
Many times in our Christian life we are faced with working on our relationships. Christians are commanded to love those around them, as God loves them; and they are to use their relationships on earth to point others to having a relationship with God. John 13:34-35 repeats Jesus’ command, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
By holding a grudge, a Christian is not loving a person enough to demonstrate forgiveness towards them and are ultimately not showing their love for God and their thankfulness for what He has done for them.
What does all of this mean? It means love those around you. Don’t keep a record of wrongdoings, life is too short for relationships to be weak because of grudges. Of course it won’t be easy because it is human nature to hold on to injustice. However, any time a person considers holding on to hurt, they should remember how much Christ did for them. Everything else pales in comparison.